Another Country Heard From

Lately, new people have been finding my blogs, which makes it damned inconvenient to have to restrict access because of one idiot. Anywho, a couple of days ago, one of Mr's other former lovers contacted me to sympathize with how he had not lived up to being the person he seemed to be. This is becoming more and more a theme in his personality, as I'm seeing it in a new perspective lately. So this lady, who offered Mr help and advice on his family situation felt like she'd been treated wrongly. She went on to offer me happiness and healing, and told me she was also moving on in her life. And perhaps that's what made me be assertive and raw with him on Sunday.
He thinks I'm Mean. LOL. He had a hissy fit...for real. But the honest to god truth is that I am SO not his beck and call girl. He has one of those living right down the street from him, willing to drop everything at a moment's hesitation for any whim of his. More power to ya girlfriend. I'm willing to try this friend thing, but it will be on my terms, it will be respectful and considerate, or it will not be at all. My time is valuable, and precious, and I will not WASTE it...period. No more excuses, and above all, no more lies. You'd think he'd understand, at this point, that I can uncover any lie he gives me. LOL. So here are my ideas about friendship:
You don't use that person without giving back. You call when you can't make it, or are going to be late. You reciprocate. You care about that person's well-being, and you "have their back". You respect them, trust them, and are considerate in your actions towards them. You don't lie to them.
The nice part, for me, about hanging out with different guys now is that I get to see the differences in how I get treated....most noticeably socially. Mr wasn't awful, but he didn't like to call on the phone, and wouldn't necessarily call me unless he needed or wanted something. He'd occasionally call me to thank me, which was super, and he'd let me know he made it home ok, or he called to see if I made it home ok. But I always felt I had to try so hard to maintain his interest all the time. Now I have someone that texts me in the morning to wish me a beautiful day, just because. He calls out of the blue to see how I'm feeling, and to ask me what I'm thinking about. What a fantastic feeling to think that someone might actually be thinking about me without my having to remind him first. LOL. Well, and he is a magnificent piece of eye candy to boot. Life is good.
My new friend and I have a date tomorrow, and I so can't wait for it. I think we may be debutting as a couple at the June Merava...but I'll have to update on that at a later time. And as for the lady that contacted me....Your story is appreciated, and you have been heard. I wish you love and happiness in your life as well, and hope you can move on to better pastures.